Is there a link between stress and depression? Yes, there is a strong correlation between the two, especially if you are a part of the "sandwich generation." What is the "sandwich generation?"
If you are a middle-aged woman who has a job, the responsibilities of children who are still at home and aging parents who are becoming more and more dependent upon you, you are a member of this group. Being in this position is not an easy task.
Your life becomes a series of events that stretch you in all directions. There are days when you are truly overwhelmed and do not know whether you are coming or going. The reality of life is that it rarely follows a discernible pattern. It simply happens and as it happens, you must decide how to deal with it.
When you are tense, your levels of the stress hormone, cortisol, increase. When cortisol is chronically elevated, it affects the balance of mood chemicals in your brain. This make you much more susceptible to depression making the link between stress and depression very strong.
You can't always prevent depression from creeping in on you but there are ways you can nurture yourself to help reduce the risk. The first step for you is to try to regain some control over the situations that are causing you stress in the first place.
Ultimately, it is not the situation that is causing the depression, it is the perceived inability to do anything about the situation. What can you do? The first thing you must do is to name the things that cause you the most stress. Putting it down on paper allows you to feel like you are taking a step in the right direction.
If your worries stem from the care of your parent(s), you need to share the burden. If you have siblings, take turns with them. If your parent(s) needs more care than you or other family members can provide, consider an assisted living facility for them if finances permit.
If you feel guilty about this and will not consider it, consider this. Your parents need to be where they can receive the best care. If you cannot provide that care, you are not thinking of their welfare, only your guilt. Of all the elderly people I have known in my life, none of them wanted the burden of their care to fall on their children.
There are also small steps you can take to relieve the pressures of your responsibilities:
*Though you are constantly challenged by the needs of your family, if you take time for yourself and learn how to say NO without feeling guilt, you can be present for them.
*Take a walk. Being outside and getting some simple exercise can make a huge difference in your outlook. Exercise releases "feel good" endorphins that raise your mood and give you something to smile about.
*Read a good book, something you can really sink your teeth into, something that completely wraps you up in its spell. Removing yourself for awhile, even mentally, from your situation relieves stress and anxiety quite well.
*Listen to your favorite music. Relax in your chair, put the headphones on, close your eyes, and take yourself away to another place. Even if you can only spare 15 minutes, it's 15 minutes of escape for you.
*Talk to a friend. Sometimes all it takes is verbally sharing your sorrows and concerns with someone who cares about you; someone who can offer sincere and helpful advice; someone who may be experiencing some of the same challenges.
Yes, being in the "sandwich generation" can be brutal, but sometimes you just have to roll up your pants legs and wade through the muck with as much humor and dignity as possible.
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