This holiday season is a time for love, good cheer and giving. However, it is also the source of stress for many people. Does it have to be this way? No, but it is easy for things to get out of hand when you feel like there is too much to do and not enough time to do it.
The accumulation of tasks and worries can be overwhelming; like trying to figure out what to buy everyone, whether or not you will have enough money, the time to buy gifts and wrap them, writing and mailing cards, cooking and baking, and a plethora of other responsibilities surrounding the holidays.
What can you do? First, figure out exactly what you are stressing about. Is it because you are short of money, you don’t know what to buy, you don’t have the time for the extra tasks, or you feel like everything always falls on your shoulders?
CAUSE OF HOLIDAY STRESS – TOO MUCH
Doing too much. The number one cause of holiday stress is trying to do too many things. As with all things in life, you must practice moderation. Too much of anything, no matter how fun it should be, leaves us feeling exhausted and drained rather than joyful and happy.
Spending too much. Holiday time is money-spending time for many and most tend to spend too excessively. When you overindulge in spending during the holidays, you will have to deal with the consequences of how to pay those bills come January.
Eating and drinking too much. All of those holiday parties can lead people to eat and drink way too much. The temptation to eat all those heavy, rich desserts and drink too much alcohol is tough to ignore.
CAUSE OF HOLIDAY STRESS – TOO LITTLE
Not enough money. You want to buy gifts for your family and friends but cannot figure out how to make that happen. Your paycheck simply will not stretch that far. When you have to budget very carefully, the priorities of rent, utilities and food come first. You lay awake at night trying to work it out.
No one to share it with. If you do not have family, you may feel alone at this time of year. You rely on your friends for companionship and support but they are spending time with their families. Your loneliness can be overwhelming.
REDUCE THE STRESS OF TOO MUCH.
DOING TOO MUCH:
Get organized. If there is not enough time in the day for you, learn how to use lists and calendars to stay organized. Be flexible with schedules and set attainable goals. You will be amazed at how much anxiety can be eliminated just by being organized and clear about your goals.
Rest. Try to get eight hours of sleep each day. If you do not get enough sleep, the result will be an increase in your stress level.
Learn how to delegate. If you have family members, use them! They can help you wrap presents, cook and bake, and address holiday cards. If you have children who drive, they can run errands for you that will allow you to have more time for other chores.
Pick your battles, choose your priorities. If shopping wears you down, do it in installments. Never try to buy everything in one shopping trip. The same is true for cooking and baking. Learn how to pace yourself. You are not superwoman so stop going for that title.
SPENDING TOO MUCH:
Be realistic. Have realistic and sensible guidelines for spending. Your children do not need every toy they ask for. Use common sense when buying them gifts.
Drawing. If you have a large family, have a drawing where everyone draws a person’s name and that is the only person you have to buy a gift for.
Be creative. You don’t have to go out and purchase a gift for everyone on your list. You can use baked goods or craft items as gifts. Most people, including myself, would much rather receive something that is made from the heart rather than bought in a store.
EATING & DRINKING TOO MUCH:
Eat healthy and nutritious food. Center your eating plan around fresh fruits and vegetables, lean protein, and whole grains. Decrease your intake of fat, sugar and caffeine. Drink lots of water, reduce your alcohol intake. You will feel much better, have more energy and be better able to deal with stress.
Get some exercise every day even if it’s just for a few minutes. Try skating, skiing or walking. Taking a walk is one of the best things you can do for your body and your mind. Walking releases endorphins that make you feel good all over.
REDUCE THE STRESS OF TOO LITTLE.
NOT ENOUGH MONEY:
Stick to your budget. No matter what the temptations, no matter what your children are clamoring for, name your budget and stick to it. Never make impulsive buys! That way there will be no surprises or anxieties down the road.
Make gifts, don't buy. Create gifts for those on your list. Your friends would much rather you make them something than have a store-bought gift. Bake some goodies and wrap them up in holiday paper. Crochet a shawl or knit a hat. These are all wonderful gifts to give. If you cannot afford to buy expensive cards, make your own. They mean so much more.
LONELINESS:
Volunteer at a food bank. Seeing how some people have to live and how needy they are, will remind you of how much you have to be thankful for. Being able to give something to those in need is not only a positive experience for them but it makes you feel very good that you can help someone.
Volunteer at a nursing home. Give your time to those who are not able to get out. There are many elderly people who have no one. Their loneliness is overwhelming, especially at holiday time. This is a wonderful way for you to get out of your own loneliness and give something that is so precious to others, yet costs so little, your time. The rewards of this simple gift will warm your heart.
TIPS TO HELP YOU RELAX:
*Bake some goodies and take them to a homebound neighbor.
*Do not worry about things out of your control.
*Get a massage.
*Have a positive attitude.
*Laugh often and long.
*Listen to music that makes you feel good and relaxed.
*Meditate.
*Play board games with your kids.
*Take a deep breath. Take more if necessary.
*Take a long, hot bubble bath.
*Watch one of your favorite movies, especially if it’s a comedy.
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