"Two men look out through the same bars: One sees the mud, and one sees the stars."- Frederick Langbridge, A Cluster of Quiet Thoughts
In life, you are always faced with choices and problems. It’s how you react to those choices and problems that define you. You may opt to have a pessimist’s view and live a self-defeated life or you may decide to be an optimist and take a challenging and fulfilling life.
Optimism has been linked to positive mood and good morale; to academic, athletic, military, occupational and political success; to popularity; to good health and even to long life and freedom from trauma.
On the other hand, the rates of depression and pessimism have never been higher. It affects middle-aged adults the same way it hits younger people. The mean age of onset has gone from 30 to 15. It is no longer a middle-aged housewife’s disorder but also a teen-ager’s disorder’ as well.
WHY IT PAYS TO BE AN OPTIMIST
Optimists expect the best. The defining characteristic of pessimists is that they believe bad events are their own fault. Optimists are confronted with the same hard knocks and challenges as pessimists. The difference is the way they explain their misfortune. They tend to believe defeat is just a temporary setback, that its causes are confined to this one case.
Optimists tend to focus on and plan for the 'problem' at hand. They use 'positive reinterpretation.' In other words, they most likely reinterpret a negative experience in a way that helps them learn and grow. Such people are unfazed by bad situations, they perceive it is a challenge and try harder. They don’t say “things will never get better.”
Positive expectancies of optimists predict better reactions during transitions to new environments, sudden tragedies and unlikely or unexpected turn of events. If they fall, they will stand up. Instead of obstacles, they see opportunities. When the going gets tough, optimists get tougher. They persevere.
Optimists are proactive and less dependent on others for their happiness. They find no need to control or manipulate people. They maintain higher levels of well-being during times of stress. In contrast, pessimists are react to stressful events by denying that they exist or by avoiding dealing with problems. Pessimists are more likely to give up.
Optimists are healthier and live longer. They age well, much freer than most people from the usual physical ills of middle age, and they outlive those prone to negative thoughts. Medical research has justified that simple pleasures and a positive outlook can cause a measurable increase in the body's ability to fight disease.
Why not look forward to success in all your endeavors? Why not be resilient? Like everybody else you are bound to hit lows sometimes but don’t just stay there. Carry yourself out of the mud and improve your chances of getting back on the right track.
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